Me: "Where's the remote? Turn it up!" as I was half-asleep fixing the kids breakfast. Puckey Bed, from yesterday, of course.
TV News Anchor: "New research indicates that the more frequently people use the social networking tool, the more they will believe that others are much happier."
Me: "Wow,that is SO truuuuuue"
John: "Which tie do you like better with this outfit?" (A conversation we have at least twice a morning)
I don't know about you, but I have completely fallen for the "Oh-she-looks-so-happy-and-has-everything" moment when starring pictures of people holding their new babies, standing on a mountain top, visiting Europe, making lunch for their kids and so on.
Not that I am not happy for others, or glad they're happy. But truthfully, people post their best pictures, funny, interesting, but ultimately by nature we put our best foot forward. Me included. And, guess what? We all fall for it at some level. If you look at Facebook, you can't tell me you have never had a feeling of annoyance, either because someone is bragging or whining. I have at least.
I've felt convicted three specific times about Facebook this week. (Marriage Seminar, TV News and Bible Study Fellowship). That was enough for me. I'm not deleting my account, but I have removed the app on my iPhone. [insert audience applause]. I'm only going to check on the real computer, which will definitely slow me down.
I love Facebook. But all this mounting evidence is showing me that it may not be the most loving thing for me to do for myself. So I'm going on a Facebook diet. Starting today, I'll let you know how it goes!
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I think it's the same with blogs sometimes. I see other's perfectly decorated houses and immediately hate all of my hodge-podge furnishings. Haha!
Stepping back from Facebook also forces the real world back into your life. When I was on maternity leave, I was on Facebook on my phone all.the.time. I found that I used the words "I saw on Facebook..." in almost every conversation I had and it was out of control. It became laughable becuase I knew all these mundane details about people's lives that I would generally never care to know.
Ashley--such a good point! I think the same can be true for blogs. I try to be really honest with the good and bad about my life, but by nature you're so right. And, I'm the SAME way about my house. I hear ya sistah!
Kate--I blame nursing for my iPhone FB addiction, hahah, honestly, there is something so addicting to checking what people are having for lunch while you're staying home with a baby. Thanks for your comment!
A quote by Steven Furtick helps me keep things in perspective - The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else's highlight reel. Sometimes I feel like one of those people who gets a surprise knock on the door for a makeover...robe, socks, and two days of spit up in my hair. But you'll never see MY picture on Facebook, just my girls :)
Amen! I've actually hidden some people because I know their lives in real-life and it is so crazy what they post on fb that I couldn't read it anymore. It was so sugar-coated that it made me sick to my stomach.
It is the same with blogs. You read them and think "Wow! Must be rough being them." With all the things people buy, places they go, etc... It is just the old saying "The grass is always greener" and most likely you don't even know the half of it!
I agree with Ashley H, I feel the same way with blogs sometimes.
Ladies, let me just say, I love you! Thanks for adding your input. I have been near applause reading all of your comments. We're together on this one, that is for certain.
I agree with you ladies! I choose which blogs I read very carefully because of this. I try to read ones that blog about all aspects of life, or at least...they're honest that they don't/ I think I have one blog where she only talks about the positive, but she says so in her blog and makes sure people know that she has her bad moments too and the blog just doesn't cover them. Obviously, I think you are pretty straight forward in your blog since I read it!
SO incredibly true. There are times when I look at my friends pictures and think what am I doing wrong that they are happier then me! I was on a cruise recently and cut off from it for a few days and I have to say that I didn't really miss it that much. I have to agree with Ashley a bit too. I read blogs and see people with their nice houses and picture perfect families and I find my self being very envious. And I love the quote Alyson posted too! So incredibly true and something we should remember when browsing social media.
What a great post! I agree that posts on both Facebook and blogs can and do impact how I'm feeling some days. The ones that I really find annoying, however, are the cryptic posts. And then people are commenting, "everything ok?" "What's going on?" "Call me - I'm worried!", etc. One of my closest friends does this, and she'll respond via private message to the folks she wants to respond to, and ignores the others. But then she'll vent to me about another friend of ours who does the same thing! She didn't get it when I came out and said, "speaking of cryptic posts..." and asked about one of hers, and I have now chosen to NOT comment on those types of posts from any of my friends.
And it's true, we all think someone else's grass is greener...and that is definitely not always the case. In most times, the greener grass is sometimes not always real, as I've sadly found out a few times.
So glad I'm not alone on this one. I love all your input. Thanks ladies. You all are beautiful and the type of people I would think has it "all" .... really good to hear from you!
This is SO true. I love the Facebook diet idea. I've been cutting back recently on using it for personal reasons and only really use it for blog purposes.
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